Starting Up Truthful Thursday … Because It Needs To Happen People. #truthfulthursday

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I mentioned it a few days ago on my blog. There’s just this BUBBLE of perfection that hovers over social media. Everything is right. Everyone is happy. Everything is… a lie.

It’s like the Matrix… but in real life.

I feel like Neo. I think I need to start wearing all black. Oh wait. I do that already. I’m from NY.

Fakebook …. I mean Facebook has really pushed me over the edge. One picture after the other of sheer bliss.

“Another perfect day!”

“I’m so lucky to have a husband who XYZ.”

“My kid made the honor roll again!”

“I can’t believe how easy my baby is!”

Well… good for you. But I am not buying it. Because you know what? I pull that you-know-what too. I post the one picture of everyone smiling together. I don’t post the picture of the meltdown that happened 5 minutes before. It’s just human nature. But why is human nature SO TIRING to witness? 

I get it. Your life is better than mine. I GET IT!!!!!!!!!  You win Internet. You W-I-N.

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I try to keep it balanced. I put the good with the bad because life is a mixture of good and bad. I believe we have to represent BOTH parts of who we are. Otherwise, everyone will just vomit all over themselves. At least, that’s what I visualize is happening on the other end of the screen.

So — I decided that once a week, I’m going to write a post that is called ‘Truthful Thursday’. This post is going to be a confession of sorts. Nothing DRAMATIC. Keep DVRing your soap operas — I’m not going THERE. Murder and sex and scandal will remain on The CW. The point of my post is to just give you a view at the imperfections. The human side. The real me. And I encourage you to do the same. Get it off your chest and then link your post below so others can read and comment about your truth.

It feels good to release, right?!

This week’s Truthful Thursday is about the medication I take for my migraines.  I don’t write about it much – but every night before I pop those four pills I feel like an absolute failure. I feel like I should be able to get control of the situation and that the pills are a last resort. Taking the pills means that I cannot myself. And if I can’t control myself… what do I really have control over?  That moment of sadness and regret and self-awareness happens every single night – for about 3 seconds – right before I drink them down.

And no matter how hard I try to tell myself that I need to take the medication, I can’t shake the fact that I am a failure for being on the two prescriptions. Because deep down inside, I feel like I should be stronger than that. Or maybe the pills are physical proof that I’m not as strong as I think. Either way, every single day, I have a moment of silent depression before I go to sleep.




{shaking it off}

There. I said it. I’ve lived it for years. I live it every night. And now you know.

Do you have something you’d like to share on Truthful Thursday? You can leave a comment, link to a blog post (using the linky below), or leave a tweet using #TruthfulThursday. Would love to start getting people a little more honest online! It starts with us!!

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  1. I wish I could whip up a post, but to be truthful, I am so behind it is criminal. I love the 16% story. That is my all-time fave. And I haven’t baked anything in years! I love this Vera!

    Posted 5.8.14
  2. Lou wrote:

    Thank You! I s my biggest gripe about Facebook and some blogs. Especially when you know they person in ‘real life’ and you know that 2/3 of what they post is completely spun. Great Idea!

    Posted 5.8.14
  3. amy wrote:

    Love this idea. Also don’t feel bad about the migraine meds. If it helps you, take them. Otherwise you are out of commission longer than you need to be.
    Anyways, #Truthful Thursday
    I have a daughter that is 11. She is very tall and big boned for her age. She sneaks food all the time. I am forever finding cereal bar and rice krispy treat wrappers underneath her bed or in shopping bags that she leaves in her room. I don’t want her to have food issues but I know what the evil mean girls say about her and it breaks my heart. I don’t want her to have food issues like I did when I was in high school or weight issues that we are always dealing with in our lives. It’s hard to know what to say or do.
    many hugs!!

    Posted 5.8.14
  4. Yasmine wrote:

    Hi Vera love your post! It’s so true we tend to snap that pic at the BEST moment … People rather post a pic of clean clothes rather than dirty laundry ;)) know what I mean.

    Don’t feel like a failure for taking pills to ease your migraine pain. Tomorrow is a new day maybe you can try something else to help you. I suffered from headaches and with some research I found caffeine could be my problem. I never dreamed coffee could be my enemy and now 4 months caffeine free later they have went away. I never thought I could give coffee up but I took it day by day.

    A lot of moms I know suffer from migraines during a recent convo and some really think it’s all the excess Sugar. Maybe you could look into your Sugar intake? You never know 🙂

    Posted 5.8.14
  5. Jen wrote:

    As if I didn’t love you, I love you even more for starting this. I love you and your family for always keeping it real. As for your migraine meds? You ARE an incredibly strong woman. Those meds improve your quality of life and allow you to be even more awesome. Don’t forget it.
    I’ll have to do my own #TruthfulThursday post on my personal blog, but short story: parenting a needy kid has kicked my ass this week. Oh man.

    Posted 5.8.14
  6. Piera wrote:

    Love that you are doing this, Vera! It is really needed and I know that I am one of those guilty of posting mostly the good stuff. But here’s some truth-telling for you – I can’t write or link up a post because the truth is that I am drowning in work and I’m commenting on this post from my couch while still in my pjs at…3:40pm ET. And, here’s another one for you – this week has sucked so bad that we haven’t eaten together at the dinner table ONCE. Honestly, I could go on and on!

    Posted 5.8.14
  7. Jen wrote:

    I LOVE THIS. Tonight we were “those people” at dinner. Liam was screaming “down, down, down!!” at the top of his lungs while Lucas colored on the table and then broke the crayon and threw it across the table. Our server loved us. NOT.

    We are all tired and had no patience for each-other. I worked a lot today and the kids were all out of sorts about it. I hate days like that.

    Posted 5.8.14
  8. I totally hear ya. I wrote a post this week when I was feeling the same way. I fail all the time with my kids. I cannot get my act together. I am so disorganized. I am always screwing up appointments. It makes me CRAY. Linking up my post above!

    Posted 5.9.14
  9. syreeta wrote:

    Thank you.

    Posted 5.13.14

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