I’ve spent the last few days running around from one calendar event to the next. Every weekend, it’s pretty much the same thing. Overbooked and happy for it. Friday night – it all started out with a birthday party. Ever since that one event, we’ve just been shuffling from one house to the next racking up IOUs to our favorite peeps. I know it’s not supposed to be “tit for tat”, but get-togethers are expensive and you always have to make sure you are paying your buddies back with a homecooked meal every now and then. I am a party of five after all.
I brought my son to school this morning utterly exhausted. I almost apologized to the teacher. Actually, I mentioned to her that Caleb wasn’t in the mood to move today. He dragged the entire morning and I warned her that he will probably do the same throughout class. She blamed it on Mondays. I walked away blaming it on a great inner circle, but I kept that to myself.
When I first moved to my new town, I was bent on being part of every circle. I still think that I am when it comes to larger-scaled parties and town meetups. But that need to be everywhere and know everyone has truly died down. I grew up always being part of such BIG groups. High School, college, when I first started working – always with tribes. HUGE TRIBES. Now, that I am pushing 40, it all feels so exhausting. Over the last few years, I found myself honing in my energy. Everything seemed to get smaller and smaller – without intention. And now, I can count my close friends on one hand. It isn’t right. It isn’t wrong. It just is. Makes everything so much simpler.
I think the older I get… the more I realize how much I need simple.
My life hasn’t been overly complicated in the friends’ department. I can’t say that for the rest of my history, but I have been blessed with great friends. I hope it’s because I give my all to anyone I love. I hope they see that. I am truly a “do or die” kind of girl. But only if I feel that you are the same.
These three are “do or die” – there’s no other way to put it.
So, while I work like a dog and I am so passionate about growing my business and learning new ways to bring in different streams of revenue for my family, I also appreciate when I go to a friend’s house and they have my favorite pineapple hard cider waiting for me because they know I don’t drink wine or beer. It’s the little things, right?