Am I Doing Too Much With The Kids?


I was talking with some family over the weekend and sort of recited my weekly schedule for the children. Once I finished… even I was exhausted. But each of things are really important to me. I want my children to learn an instrument. I want my children to learn tennis… AND they want to do a few other things (brownies, la crosse, baseball, basketball between them). Liam only has a half day – so most of this is while Natalie is in school. I guess that makes it ok.

Believe me – no one is complaining – but it all seems like overload.

I had no after school activities growing up. I lived on a wonderful block filled with children and we just all sort of met outside and hung out. During the summer, the moms would join us and we would all sit on someone’s stoop and laugh the night away. SO FUN.

But it’s not like that anymore. Everything is so organized and I am an adult with no particular skill which is upsetting. I want to make sure my children grow up knowing how to do things (play tennis, golf maybe, definitely an instrument though it doesn’t have to be piano , etc). I mean – I’m 34 and taking ukulele lessons! I feel a little old to be doing this but that isn’t stopping me.

What’s your take?


Are your children in a lot of after school classes? Or are you more of a “just come home, relax and play with your friends” kinda mom?

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  1. We’ve been feeling totally overwhelmed with activities lately too. Cole even listed them out his sports to me the other day and I was also exhausted just listening to the list!
    I think as Moms we want our kids to be involved and try out different things – but it’s definitely a difficult balance to having fun and overwhelming them (and us!) with no free time! I’m still trying to figure it out for sure…

    Posted 5.14.12
  2. Linsey T wrote:

    My daughter is in Junior Girl Scouts and takes recorder lessons. I had planned for her to just be in one activity but two crept in and it works. She still gets to play but has some organized activities.

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  3. ClumberKim wrote:

    My kids do a lot. Some are through the school’s enrichment program, some are sports outside of school. My kids are very social and love each of the activities. They come back asking to do more. I ask them regularly if it’s too much but they don’t. It helps that homework is minimal or zero thus far. They do get time to hang out with the many kids in our neighborhood (25 kids under 12 on two adjacent cul de sacs). They go to bed earlier than the other kids so I’m the bad guy when I cut that time short, but I know they can’t do the things they do without getting enough sleep.

    Posted 5.14.12
  4. Vera wrote:

    i appreciate you responding – bc this has been weighing heavy on me

    Posted 5.14.12
  5. Kris wrote:

    My kids are in Lacrosse, softball, basketball, track and soccer. It is a lot of running, but we still manage to sit and eat dinner together at least 4 nights a week and designate Friday nights for them to hang out with friends and Saturday nights family nights. I think it is so important for them to be involved and busy. It keeps them out of trouble and gives them a goal to shoot for. You will know when it is too much for them.

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  6. Once they widdle through all the things they want to try, it gets easier since they usually get drawn to one or two things they just Have to do. Good luck surviving! Cathy

    Posted 5.14.12

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