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It’s All About Community, Learning And Accepting Change

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So, yesterday I wrote a post about the Sam and Nia controversy and how it’s affecting all Christians. A friend of mine quietly emailed me and told me that a portion of my post was doing exactly what I was begging everyone else to not do:

Lump summing people in a group.

There was a section in that piece where I started sentences with words like:

  • All Christians…
  • A true Christians …

And honestly, it was totally hypocritical. I mean, I was asking the Internet to NOT DO THAT and yet there I was publishing and pushing the same message.

As my friend first approached me, I stood strong on my ground. The truth is, I do sort of believe what I wrote. But I also believe her side as well. I can see two sides to this coin. We are – after all – human. We do – after all – fall. It’s how we raise ourselves up again that matters most. The more we chatted, the more I softened. I had her beliefs. Of course I did. We come from the same church. I was just SO ANGRY about everything that has been happening to the Christian Community as of late that I wrote the harshest words to make the strongest point. 

And so, I learned a lesson. Yes, even at almost 40 you can do that.

It’s good to have a community that will challenge you to look deep into yourself.

It’s good to have friends that are up for a friendly debate.

It’s smart to remain flexible and open.

And it’s always best to correct yourself when you are wrong.

I suppose this post is an apology to anyone that I offended yesterday. I corrected the section in yesterday’s post to be more reflective on the actual state of affairs. And I hope that my message still rings true for anyone that reads it.

Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.