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Parents! Don’t Forget About Eye Contact While Speaking To Your Children

This is so sad… and I am unfortunately part of the problem.

I went out to dinner over the weekend with some friends and they told me about a disturbing study they recently read which showed that children are having issues with eye contact because they are getting so little from their parents these days.

THANKS to the iPhone, the Blackberry and social media in general,the majority of parents are no longer making eye contact with their children. Instead, we are multi-tasking and saving the world one email at a time. It’s doing a MAJOR disservice to our kids and I for one am going to put an end to it.

Just think about all the times you’ve instructed your child to do something while checking email. Where are you looking? You’re looking DOWN and not into the eyes of your child. This study shook my core. It’s something I know I do ALL THE TIME and it just has to stop. We don’t realize the effect we are having on our children by being so INVOLVED with work.

Sometimes I wish we didn’t have all of this technology. Remember when we were younger and if you didn’t have a quarter to call someone… you didn’t. And somehow we didn’t implode? And somehow the world continued to spin? Those were the good ol’ days.

Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.


  1. I’m embarrassed to say that is works the other way too. Here my dad is trying to talk to me the other day I was staying at his house (B/c of the snow mess) and I am looking at my computer only half answering him. Next time I sit down to watch TV with him I’ll ditch the laptop. Family time is valuable for parent/child at any age! Thanks for the realization!

  2. Hi Vera, Can you provide a link to this study? I tried to google it, but I can’t find it anywhere. This is very interesting.

  3. I’m a pre-k teacher, and this is so true. My little ones interact, learn, and talk better if I look them in the eyes. It also helps to reach to their level. It makes a huge difference.

    I agree with the old time comment. There is a huge (and not always real) need to be available 24/7. Seriously, the world is not going to end if we don’t respond immediately to an email or a text message, or if we don’t know what’s happening around the world every single minute. We need to learn how to turn it off and enjoy the moment.

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